You should know by now that the first person that you need to please is you.
For eons we were psychologically conditioned to put others before ourselves. We were incorrectly taught that being selfish was a bad thing.
The real madness is when we expect others to be pleasing us when we should be pleasing ourselves first (Wow, some of us really have things all mixed up).
Are you aware that the heart sees to it that it has its supply of blood first before it pumps any throughout the rest of the body?
I am of the belief that if we are unable to please ourselves, it would be somewhat difficult to share our pleasure with others and if pleasing ourselves falls into the category of selfishness, so be it!